Popular singer, Omawumi Megbele, who recently had her court wedding,
opened up on her love life, her husband and daughter, Kamillah.
In an interview with Punch Newspaper, she explained why she initially
broke up with her baby daddy as against him rejecting her pregnancy
back then.
“We wanted to make sure that we were getting married for the right
reasons. That is the best way I can explain it. We were in love before
we had a child together and we were still seeing each other after I gave
birth to my first child. We wanted to be sure that we were truly in
love because we really did not have time to get to know each other
before I got pregnant. When I got pregnant, he did the manly thing by
standing by me and supporting me. We did not want to get married until
we were very sure that it was what we wanted. I would have felt bad if
we got married because we have a child together and end up hating each
other eventually. We had to be sure it would work out and I am very
happy that it worked out.”
On why it took her so long to show his face; “Did I even show his
face? I did not do it deliberately. It was not something I thought about
before doing. Yes, he is a very private person.”
On why she doesn’t post her daughter’s photos on social media; “I
believe that when she is ready to start posting pictures online, it
should be her choice. The fact that I post pictures of myself is my
choice. My daughter is lovely, beautiful, intelligent, and it takes the
grace of God for me not to show her off. But I believe she should be the
one posting her pictures if she wants to. That is why you do not see
her anywhere. Her father also shares that opinion that it should be her
choice. If she wants to take pictures or ride on her mother’s name, it
has to be her choice. It would not be fair to put her out there whether
she wants such or not. It might seem strange but the same goes for her
dad. Her father does not like being in the public glare. He loves me so
much and has accepted my career. When I observed the way he kept to
himself, I had to respect that. He has a choice to either be in the
limelight with me or be at the background cheering me and he has made
his decision.”
On her rumored affair with the Delta state governor; “Whoever started
that must be an idiot. I have answered the question before I got
married and I am being asked again. If my husband’s people decided to
read your newspaper and see this, do you think they would be happy and
feel good to read such about their daughter-in-law? It is not nice for
journalists to write on things like this especially when you know that
the person is an honourable and decent person, had no affair with the
governor and he has always been a father figure to me. Bringing such up
in the position that I am right now is callous.”
How she feels when she reads negative stuff written about her in the
Newspapers; “Before I got into the industry, I read soft sell magazines a
lot and I liked the gossips too. And whenever I read or heard something
about an entertainer, I easily believed until I became a victim myself.
The first time I read a scandalous article about myself, I wanted to
run mad. I did not know who to fight with. I am not the kind of person
that hides behind ‘anonymity’ to fight somebody. I am from Warri and we
are not wired that way. We would say what is in our mind and if you do
not like it, we would fight over the issue. When I got into the industry
and it happened to me, I did not know who to fight with. It really hurt
me but later on, I spoke to people who had worst things said about them
and one of them told me that if I dwelt on what people have said about
me, I would kill myself. It is so sad that some people just sit down and
concoct lies. I don’t know if it makes them feel good that somebody
that they admire and watch on television is miserable due to their lies.
Does it mean that we are not also human? It is something that I have
been pondering on but pending the time I find an answer, those lies do
not bother me. But God would punish whoever starts a rumour about me and
I find out who the person is. I will hurt the person; I will make sure
that I dedicate a section of my life just to hurt the person.”
On how beautiful the marital journey has been; “It has been
wonderfully sweet. I don’t know how people expect it to be but I feel
like I have been married for more than two years. We just did the
ceremony so that people would not raise eyebrow at my second baby. I
have technically been in a relationship that seemed like marriage for
more than two years. I am blessed with a good and wise man. He is very
caring and sensible. He is somebody that can behave like a baby today
and a wise man tomorrow. He is a total package. He is very content and
easy going. He does not say much.
My craziness knows its boundaries. It knows where to start and where
to end. He loves me the way I am and knows how to manage me very well. I
am very homely, I am funny, I am the life of the party most times and
whenever I am not around, everybody would be gloomy. I think the
question should be how can he do without me and not how does he cope
with me.”
