Our female celebrities shouldadmit that they are horrible at choosing their men. And as a celebrity,
destroying your man publicly makes you look stupid because you are the
one who chose to be with him in the first place. Most of you ladies want
a perfect man because you have a natural need to want to fix something about him.
always was. Even if the guy you married was the most disgusting pig in
the whole universe, you should admit that lowering your standards so severely was your choice.Every divorce is built on those things that were created during courtship.
don’t have the ability to analyse what was injected into your brain
during those few critical years or months of courtship, then whatever
happens in your marriage is your funeral, not ours.
Must all celebrities publicly play the blame game at the end of their
marriages, assigning blames like football fans after a bad match day?
Must they turn their divorces into a bride versus groom contest with
their fans taking sides? Trust the Nigerian press and bloggers who are
ever too quick to join the accusation bandwagon to exonerate their
preferred spouse without proper investigation.
platform for forecasting the longevity of celebrity marriages in
Nigeria. It is much easier to predict how long a Nigerian celebrity
marriage will last these days than the scoreline of a Chelsea FC versus
Arsenal FC match.
When you get right down to the root of most celebrity divorces, you will
discover it all boils down to one simple conclusion to which most
females adhere: their men are always at fault. The guilt and punishment
are simply assigned to whoever happens to have the penis. Haven’t you
all redefined coincidence, with all your husbands accused of domestic violence?
now seem to be focused on exposing their husbands or catching them
red-handed? Not knowing that the more they take that route, the more
convinced they become that their husbands are really cheating.
there centres on one theme: “catch, prove and divorce”. Yes your husband
erred, but why let the world know? Does his trial at the public court
make you feel good? Do you feel any more righteous by making him the
villain and you the good guy?
Stop acting like your secrets are finally out; everyone knows that your
partner didn’t just start having an affair. It is the obvious truth that
most celebrity marriages are built on adultery, and whatever adultery
joins together, adultery shall put asunder. Your emotions wouldn’t be in
turmoil today if you had listened to your gut feelings yesterday. But
my dear, before you decide to take the road of divorce to wherever it
may lead, you must first consider the real cost of going that route.
reason your husband cheated on you in the first place, you’d just be
circling around the same problem instead of fixing it and preventing it
from happening in the future. Put your emotions aside for a moment and
ask yourself, why on earth would your husband fall into the arms of
another woman when he has a caring, compassionate and loving woman at
home?Ask yourself where you went wrong. Maybe the reason you had a cheating husband
was because he had a set of needs that you were unable to fulfill
because of your gallivanting lifestyle as a celebrity. The blame often
starts within the walls of your mind and results in you holding him
responsible for the collapse of the marriage. At this point, nothing he
says could ever provide an adequate answer, but you just keep asking the
same questions over and over again. People should also know that in
most celebrity divorces, not all blames come from within.
blames come from people outside the marriage, who feel they need to
pass judgments. To the press and bloggers having a swell time with every
celebrity divorce, I hope you
know that it’s very easy to lay blames when you’re on the sidelines. You
are acting like a spectator at a football match with a bird’s-eye view
of all the action, while those playing on the field get consumed by the
waves of emotions that accompany their divorce.To our female celebrities, whenever you find yourself wanting to lay
those blames, please relax for a moment and think about the
appropriateness of the blames. Think about the consequences of your
accusations. Try to examine the situation from multiple viewpoints.
cheated or been mistaken to have cheated, please understand that your
women are lashing out because of their fears and insecurities. And as a
man, there is a great level of maturity in accepting responsibility for
your behaviour and taking the blame for your actions.Divorce is a
winless game that is best not played. In Onyeka Onwenu’s voice, may
there be peace in our homes. Amen.
