2. Cancels Plans At The Last Minute: This guy only asked you to hang out because the woman he really
wanted to go out with was unavailable. But then she became available,
which means you are now getting the boot. If this happens often, it’s
usually because something, or someone, better came along and he doesn’t
need you to fall back on anymore. If it happens once, it’s nothing to
get alarmed about. But if it happens often, you’re his back up chick…and
you shouldn’t stand for it out of principal alone.
3. He Just Wants To Be Friends (With Benefits): The most obvious way to tell you’re his back up chick is if he tells you
he just wants to be friends, even after you’ve managed to sleep
together already. Now this is where a woman has to be honest with
herself because a lot of men will tell a woman upfront that they don’t
want to be in a relationship with her or anyone else, but they think sex
will change their mind. Ladies, not even MIND-BLOWING sex will make a
man want to commit if he isn’t ready. Hell, he may be ready to commit,
just not with you. If he says he just wants to be friends, believe him.
If you can hand sex with no strings, cool…rock out. But if you want
more, wait to see if that friendship has the potential to turn into
something more before you give up the goodies.
4. Makes Plans At The Last Minute: Just like the guy who cancels at the last minute, the man who uses you
as his back up chick usually considers you his “Plan B” when his
original plans fall through. He knows you’ll be at home waiting by the
phone for him to call you to do something, so you keep your weekends
free just in case he gets the urge to hit you up. If you recognize this
behaviour in yourself, stop it and get a life. As the saying goes, don’t
make a man a priority when he only considers you an option. Next time he
calls with a last minute request to see you, be busy
5. He Says You Are Perfect For Someone Else: How many times have you been seeing a guy casually who complains that
there are no good women out there when, in fact, you seem to be
everything he’s looking for? It’s frustrating when the guy you’re head
over heels in love with can’t recognize a good thing when it’s staring
him in the face, so you keep trying to show him how wonderful you are to
no avail. He will tell you that you’re beautiful, intelligent, funny,
hot, and everything that any man could ever want…just not him. What he’s
saying is he’s just not that into you. If he keeps trying to push you
onto someone else, then follow his lead and find a man who actually
wants to be with you.
6. He Openly Dates Other Women: Again, this is a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many women are
in denial that they have a chance with a guy who openly talks about and
dates other women. If you two have no real commitment and he has no
problem discussing other women in front of you, you’re wasting your time
hoping for a relationship with this guy. If he knows that you want more
than a casual dating situation with him, yet flaunts other women in
front of you anyway, he has no regard for your feelings. In fact, wants
you to know that you two are nowhere close to being in a committed
relationship. He’s showing you who he is and what he does and does not
want. Believe him!
7. He Never Returns Your Calls: Duh. If you are always calling him, only to get a response back from him
days or weeks later, he’s not that into you. When a man is digging you,
he can’t help but reach out to you to hear your voice, check up on you
and see what you’re up to. But if days, weeks…months go by, and then he
hits you up out of the blue like “what’s up…wanna hang out,” or drunk
texts you asking if he can stop by, it is up to you to see the clear
sign. This basically means he’s in between girlfriends, his girlfriend
is out of town, or he’s bored or horny and there is no one else to call.
Block him.
8. You Can’t Spend The Night After Sex: If a man says you can’t stay over because he has to get up early or
simply asks you to leave after having sex, you are a non-factor in his
life. You should be able to at least get a good night’s rest after
rolling around in the sheets and maybe even a bowl of cereal in the
morning before you head out. But if he’s always got an excuse as to why
you can’t stay, he’s using you for sex only or he’s afraid his REAL
girlfriend will roll up on him and bust him. If he was really into you,
he’d want you to stay so you could spoon all night. Have some dignity
and never go back…and sleep in your own bed.
9. He Always Comes To You After A Break Up: This is the guy who cries on your should after some other no-good chick
breaks his heart into a million little pieces…and he has yet to realize
that you would never hurt him like that. He knows deep down inside that
you are a good woman and would make a great wife one day, but rather
than getting with you, he dates ratchet chicks and then wonders how he
got played for a fool. He’s vulnerable, so he talks to you in romantic
ways saying things like “why can’t all women be wonderful like you,”
getting your hopes up that he’ll actually open his eyes and discover
that you’re the one. He spends time with you while he heals and you take
his mind off that wicked b–ch who broke his heart and you think he’ll
pay you back with his undying love and devotion. Wake up, because that
stuff only happens in your dreams or the movies. Once his wounds have
healed and he’s over her, he doesn’t need you anymore…he’s on the prowl
again looking for anyone but you. Next time he comes to you after a
breakup, tell him you’d love to console him but you’ve got plans with
your new man and he’ll have to get over it himself. You’re not his
therapist, he’ll be alright.
